She was having challenges raising my two grandchildren and hoped it would be helpful for them. Between Parent and Child: Ginott , Paperback, Revised. Over the past thirty-five years, Between Parent and Child has helped millions of parents around the world strengthen their relationships with their children.
Written by renowned psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott, this revolutionary book offered a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduced new communication techniques that would change the way parents spoke with, and listened to, their children. Ginott's innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field, and now his methods can work for you, too.
In this revised edition, Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr.
Ships from Reno, NV. Better World Books Condition: B Reading a book on parenting is the easy part but applying its principles is quite another. Nor do I have children. It's too gray an area. Nov 04, Kelli rated it really liked it. I have gained insight on responding not only to children but also adults in a more responsive way.
Wallace Goddard usher this bestselling classic into the new century while retaining the book's positive message and Haim Ginott's warm, accessible voice. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to: Discipline without threats, bribes, sarcasm, and punishment Criticize without demeaning, praise without judging, and express anger without hurting Acknowledge rather than argue with children's feelings, perceptions, and opinions Respond so that children will learn to trust and develop self-confidence Strengthen your relationship with your children with this revised edition of the book by renowned psychologist Dr.
Strengthen your relationship with your children with this revised edition of the book by renowned psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott that has helped millions of parents around the world. In this revised edition, Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to: Ginott — was a renowned clinical psychologist and psychotherapist. He is the author of Between Parent and Teenager, Teacher and Child, and Between Parent and Child, which stayed on the bestseller list for more than a year….
Between Parent and Child: Ginott Edited by Dr. It was a quick, fascinating read. Just substitute the word "child" with the word "human" and all of these principles and techniques apply to adults as well! They give great examples of our typical impulsive reactions in certain situations, and examples of more effective ways of communicating. I've already started applying the techniques to my coworkers, clients, friends and family. I'd already figured out nagging doesn't really work, but I've realized I just over-explain and preach and talk about what we "should" do too much.
Get to the point, lady! People don't generally need explanations unless they ask for one. I over-explain to justify my point but often a justification is unnecessary. But it's amazing how effective the techniques are when applied even clumsily by an amateur! I've already gotten surprising results just by carefully mirroring emotions without judgement or blame.
I've had casual conversations become suddenly deep and meaningful when that wouldn't have happened before. It feels odd at first to just mirror, a little contrived and manipulative, but all skills feel contrived at first until one has more practice and experience with them. And the pleasure and relief my mirroring brought my companions was very rewarding.
That was always my goal before, but who knew I didn't really even need to do or say that much in order to bring that relief. I'm becoming a better listener! Anyway, I recommend everyone everywhere read this book if you want to become a better, more caring and compassionate person and communicator. Words are the tools we use to interact with others, and they can cause great emotional harm or nurturing depending on how we use them. I'm learning how to express my true emotions and feelings without upsetting others, and it's very freeing and rewarding!
I used to be scared to discuss angry feelings because of the inevitable conflict that would arise, and I was starting to develop a nasty temper. Now I feel I'm developing a much better way of expressing my negative feelings. Sep 20, Summer rated it it was amazing. No parenting book is perfect, but I can honestly say that this is the first book that has helped me change my behavior in less than a week of reading it.
It deals more with psychology and understanding the basis of why we should treat our children and all people a certain way. I think the behavior change came very naturally because I understood my daughter's emotions so much better within a few chapters. This book comes highly recommended and is helping me in more relationships than one. I just No parenting book is perfect, but I can honestly say that this is the first book that has helped me change my behavior in less than a week of reading it.
I just have to add, though, there are things I definitely don't agree with in the slightest when it comes to certain values suggested in the later chapters of the book. Just have to throw some of it out, but it doesn't mean that the book is not worthwhile or the principles unhelpful. Jun 04, Jared rated it liked it. The book is full of basic parenting gems, but I didn't necessarily agree with all of his suggestions and some of his examples weren't very realistic.
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Apr 27, Betty rated it really liked it. Reading a book on parenting is the easy part but applying its principles is quite another. Yet with this book, I could start applying Ginotte's techniques from the moment I started reading and I found them to be extremely effective. I now find it easier to communicate with my two-year old and in particular, to handle her emotional outbursts in a more mature and empathetic way. The book is full of practical advice and real-life examples and is very easy to read, especially for an exhausted mom.
B Reading a book on parenting is the easy part but applying its principles is quite another. Between Parent and Child is a wonderful tool to help you become a better, more empathetic and effective parent. Jun 10, Vivcaudle rated it it was amazing. This is my favorite of all the texts I read in this area of study. I highly recommend this book to every parent! Easy and fast reading. Nov 20, Marie rated it liked it Recommended to Marie by: This book had some good points, but it was quite preachy, and used "should" language a lot. It is the predecessor to book: Raising an Emotionally Intellegent Child.
It was the reason they decided to do all the research for that book. It has good points on how to relate with your children.
Some of it seems somewhat out of touch. Some of it does not fit with my value system for example, how permissive we should be with our children about premarital sex. And I know that if I was in the middle of This book had some good points, but it was quite preachy, and used "should" language a lot. And I know that if I was in the middle of raising kids this book would definitely cause a lot of guilt. I do like what he says about stating emotions for children instead of asking them to come up with the labels. And the main thing that's important to me from the past 3 parenting books I've read is being empathic to our children.
Putting ourselves in their shoes, realizing what a big deal these things are. Instead of berating or belittling, we should try to be understanding and uplifting. I couldn't just all out believe, I had to sort and decipher what I wanted to change about my ideas and what I wanted to hold on to. Feb 04, Heather Clark marked it as to-read Shelves: Yes, it's dated, but I love, love, love Haim Ginott.
Here's a famous quote of his, that I continue to use: There is nothing quite as sooth 3. There is nothing quite as soothing for children as being understood. There is nothing quite as helpful for solving parenting problems as the feeling of parents and children working together. Jan 06, Nicoleta rated it liked it Shelves: Jun 30, Krista rated it really liked it Shelves: Even when I disagreed with Dr. Ginott whose last name I'd love to know how to pronounce , it was generally over the implementation of a principle, not the principle itself.
His approach kicks the casual, reactionary, parent-child dialogue rather out the door, and it took me a little while to really understand what he was saying. The biggest concept I took from his book is summarized like this: We are to be the healers of our children's hearts, not just their skinned knees. Makes perfect sense, right? That said, I was Until I tried it.
So I've kept it up. Sometimes it is, and of course, most times, more healing is needed; but that bond of empathy fosters love, rather than antagonism.
Ginott does not favor wishy-washy parenting; it's quite the opposite, in fact. But he also explains how children's minds work and gives examples of how to correct action without blaming and humiliating them or even yourself. I learned a lot, and the most surprising thing is how much of a difference my little efforts have made already. Ginott's house, but not in mine.
Sep 09, Toni rated it did not like it. I had high expectations for this book. The first few chapters were fine. I agree that we should praise children for their efforts; not the finished product, I agree that children tune us out when we sermonize or lecture and that anyone is incapable of truly communicating when emotions are highly charged.
Ginott also talks about the importance of kid I had high expectations for this book. Ginott also talks about the importance of kids feeling our empathy. He gives some examples in dialogs. Some were helpful, but I found most to be overly simplistic or structured. For example, Ginott suggests that when a parent and child go to another home to visit that the parent needs to be the child's emotional support in a different environment; not the enforcer of rules.
So the parent should inform the host that "this is your home, and your rules. Please feel free to reprimand my child. First of all, as a host, I don't feel comfortable reprimanding someone else's kid - that's the parent's responsibility. Secondly, my idea of reprimanding my be totally different from someone else's idea. It's too gray an area.
But the chapter that had me incredulous and disgusted was the one about how to approach sex and human values.