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They can get all the sex they want anyway — including online porn on demand that can make the real thing feel mildly disappointing. That he was gone and she was technically available was beside the point. Men love women who are fun and feisty and who know their own mind! But today, sex is cheap. Now, it's dawned on me that he was right.
You'll get an earful. Like it or not, women have always been the gatekeepers for sex — not because they don't like sex, too, but because no matter what you learned in gender studies men's sex drive is innately higher.
This means it's up to us to make the rules. It drove me crazy when he said that. Now, it's dawned on me that he was right.
Since the women's cartel collapsed, women's bargaining power has seriously eroded. That's why so many single women hate Tinder, which has further commodified sex for the benefit of men. Women are just another consumer good in the shop window. It may take a village to raise a child. But it takes a village to raise a husband, too.
And modern society has largely abdicated from the job. Time to get our act together, ladies. If we don't, they won't either. This is a space where subscribers can engage with each other and Globe staff. Non-subscribers can read and sort comments but will not be able to engage with them in any way. Click here to subscribe. If you would like to write a letter to the editor, please forward it to letters globeandmail.
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You might think you're just head over heels, but the truth is you've lost all power. You may not even be sure what I mean by “receiving” so let me explain: When we allow our men to give to us, we women then have the energy men five thousand years ago knew just how much power we had over them?.
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We hope to have this fixed soon. Thank you for your patience. If you are looking to give feedback on our new site, please send it along to feedback globeandmail. All those anti-discrimination laws and equal-access programs now at risk birthed a generation of women whose sense of self and priorities are radically different from any before.
For eight years, the Obamas provided a public example of a marriage of equals.
He ran the country, but we all know she had the brains, talent and tenacity to the same. Just as he has enough kindness, patience and endurance to run a household.
There is no authenticity in that. How can you trust someone you know is lying to you? How can you respect someone who needs the lie? Acknowledged or not, the truth sets heavy on many relationships I know. It breeds a dissatisfaction I have seen only the strongest relationships survive — usually by imploding and rebuilding. Longtime friends have been married for a long time. They married, had kids and settled into the traditional roles they both thought they wanted. His career became the family priority; the family became hers.
And it worked — for a while. Except it is not. The shift is merely an awakening of self-knowledge. It took therapy, a separation and, in the end, a radical shift in how my friends saw themselves and each other, but today their marriage is one based on who each partner is rather than what tradition told them they should be. Their children get to see how a relationship based on each person standing on their own works.
And from the outside, it looks pretty loving and supportive and honest. Mine is the first generation of women encouraged to move through the world like men. Not as men, but like them: With aspirations beyond the family and the home. I came into adulthood believing in the feminism of Claire Huxtable , which deemed submission in return for protection and provision archaic. We all wanted to be the Huxtables. We all wanted that life. And we can have it — once we free men from the burden of believing their value in a relationship is financial rather than emotional.
I want a lover, not a boyfriend. The Ikea bed frame that almost tore us apart. Solo-ish Perspective Perspective Interpretation of the news based on evidence, including data, as well as anticipating how events might unfold based on past events. Girl power has lifted up women but failed men.