Rediscovering Your Intelligence

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Examples of these signals are feeling trapped, feeling bored, feeling like life is passing you by, or that your personal ethics have been compromised.

In my experience, it really takes a concerted effort to self-examine on a regular basis. But there are some very effective strategies for examining your decisions and adjusting your trajectory where appropriate. Many people use a few combinations of these strategies, some seek help from others, and some prefer to go it alone.

However you choose to undertake these methods, remember to take it slow.

Taking some time off is a great way to figure out what you really want to do. It gives you a chance to reconnect with your aspirations.

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Sabbaticals are a common occurrence in academic institutions, typically offering faculty members six to 12 months off — often with pay. Because this is less common in business settings, those who do so are taking a risk, to be sure. But in my experience, few regret the decision. Do you think this is right for you? This can be quite difficult; most high achievers crave routine. Additionally, what about the loss of financial security?

This is often prohibitive. For some people, abandoning their station feels like too great a sacrifice. If a more structured scenario would suit you better, consider a leadership or executive development program. These offer guided settings for people as they explore their dreams. Take a long-time executive of several health care organizations. For a change, he began teaching part-time. He maintained his position at work, even as his course load grew rapidly. But he was becoming exhausted.

It became clear to him and his coach that he had a powerful calling to teach. Teaching was not just a diversion; it was his dream. And some progressive companies have also decided that these programs are worth it, as they result in a rejuvenated, reinvigorated team. When the late leadership guru Warren Bennis conducted a survey of leaders in the early s, he discovered a common trait: Many people rely on meditation, prayer, exercise, or simple reflection as their outlet. One CEO reflects in solitude for an hour a day, and sometimes two or three hours on weekends.

However you choose to do this, the goal is to separate yourself from everyday demands and just be with your thoughts. And that voice, in turn, does its level best to inform - and mostly compromise -- our self-esteem. The lies issue from the perspective of those who themselves have lost contact with their own authenticity. They have their own set of lies to believe in. Remember the old adages, "When you point a finger, there are three pointing back at you. Well, there you go. Psychosocially, and from the standpoint of emotional intelligence , the bully is always the weakest one on the playground.

On the other side of things, self-esteem is a wholly Western construct.

Daniel Goleman: Four Strategies to Renew Your Career Passion - Daniel Goleman

Indeed, the notion of self-esteem - a notion that necessitates the inclusion of a dualistic "bad me" to balance out the "good me" - is quite foreign to Eastern thinkers. This is uniquely evidenced by the well known anecdote regarding a conference on Psychology and Buddhism some years ago where it was necessary to spend an entire day explaining the concept of self-esteem to a group of quite learned Eastern teachers and contemplatives, including the Dalai Lama. It's not that they didn't understand the construct of self-esteem, but, more, it's that they didn't understand why such a construct was even necessary.

The construct is necessary because we, at the sufferance of our own socialization, cling to this notion of "bad me"; a notion fostered by our fixation upon those formative negative instructions. There is really no way to avoid these negative instructions because they aren't about us - they are about the person who issues them. We can, however, manage the experience of those instructions, and the degree to which we allow them to influence us.

If we minimize and contain our experience of those negative instructions, recognizing them for what they are, then there is no real opportunity for us to generate the notion of "bad me". With no "bad me", there's no necessity for a "good me" -- there's just "me" This is a path back to the authentic self -- no conditions, no qualifications, no limitations. In this way, we can work toward an unselfconscious iteration of ourselves, rather than version that is constantly second guessing and looking over our own shoulder.

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This are just my own thoughts, but I feel that most people's inner critic is negative behind the media we consume everyday. Watch your local news for 30 minutes, would you hear anything other negative and depressing news.

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