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Take full responsibility for your success. Take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve. Take the time to reflect on a regular basis. Do you short-term goals align with your long-term view?
Are you performing the right micro goals? Are you tracking the right behaviors? Deconstruct your goal to find out the key habits and the right metrics to measure.
Be intentional with your actions and goals. Educate yourself to move in the right direction. A fulfilled life is more about striving than achieving. You will get hedonically adapted to achievements but you will always find meaning in life when you strive for more greatness in life. Have a long-term vision and think about what you want to do now and what you can do later in life. Success is not complicated. You have all the distractions in the world. It has become an art to protect your vision from such distractions.
Another category of distractions are the ones that look healthy on the surface but can take your focus away from your number one goal.
In my last post, I talked about one of the tricks I use to realize my ideals: success spirals. In this post, I'll go into a bit more detail of how to create. Success spirals are powerful, but have downsides. As outlined in the book, The Motivation Hacker, you can only fail at success spirals so many times before your .
Unlimited information books, blogs, podcasts, courses , other goals in life, too many ideas are the examples of such distractions. Lifelong learning is your best friend but you should know what to choose, what to skip , when to fast forward and when to slow down according to your current knowledge. You may also have other ideas or goals in life you want to accomplish. You can pursue 2—5 goals at the same time if the goals are not difficult or if they lie in different categories.
For example, you can lose weight and succeed in your career at the same time. But for difficult goals, you must choose one at a time in your life.
Goal-setting is much like planting a tree. First, you want to set the intentions, which represents planting the seeds. Then, you want to water the seeds, which means taking action. Last, you want to put your energy into the action which represents sunlight.
Taking action is not enough. People who succeed in one area of life, generally tend to succeed in others. A SAFL is an acronym for a self-amplifying feedback loop. Say that you decide to start improving your life, and like most men, you start with your nutrition.
You start following the Bulletproof Diet , like I recommend, and after a month or two you begin to really feel the effects:. Now, because your health is much better, you can expend more energy and focus on improving your financial situation. You start reading books on how to get rich , and you start using their advice. Now, not only is your diet much better, but your financial situation is much better, too.
So now, not only are you more energetic and more focused, but you have more money. This excess of money will allow you to stop working so much at your job, and maybe you can now down-grade to a part time job. Then, because you have so much free time, you can start focusing on learning game and building a social circle.
You use your new found energy and focus to go out and meet women—eventually, after some months of effort, you have a thriving social circle. This then makes you happier and gives you more connections, which improves your business life and health. Do you see the point? Success in one area creates success in another, and you use that success to succeed even more, ad infinitum. Say that your diet consists mostly of junk food. Well, what does this do to your cognition and overall health?
Then, this makes it difficult to find the energy to go out and learn the art of cold approaching girls.
So now, your health is bad, your finances are bad, and your social life is bad. This makes it even harder to find the motivation to improve your health, so it sort of traps you into a negative lifestyle where just improving a little bit is extremely difficult. It feeds on itself and ultimately brings you down until your life is awful. While I have not personally experienced this, it is a possibility that can inhibit my using success spirals when I am only half-committed […]. The concept is simple: Right now, I am keeping track of some of my success spirals publicly on this spreadsheet.
When I started this blog, I posted a tutorial on how to set up and use success spirals to live your day-to-day ideals.
From the inception of the success spiral through to its review phase. In my last post, I talked about one of the tricks I use to realize my ideals: