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She is 3 years older than me, and so has always been at a different stage of life than I was. She begged and cried and I caved in and we got engaged, as I thought this would keep her happy for a while. She immediately started planning the wedding for the following year. I expressed my feelings to her about not rushing things, but she ignored me and continued to finalize the plans. I felt I had to go thru with the wedding at that point because it seemed like there was no way out of it, but I fully expected it would only last about a year.

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However, one year turned into two, and before I knew it, she announced that her biological clock was ticking and that it was time for children. I told her financially we were not yet ready for kids, but again she ignored my feelings and again I gave in to her. However, I did not realize it, but each time she ignored my feelings and each time I gave in, resentment had been building inside me.

Finally, after 11 years of putting up with things and letting her get her way because I was the easy-going one in the relationship, I finally felt like I had to do something. So, I actively sought out a high school sweetheart and rekindled the realtionship via the internet. I then paid a visit to this person and began a physical affair. My wife found out about it, and my life has gone from bad to much, much worse. I realize that I should not have gone about things in this way, but I felt that finding someone who actually cared about me and was unselfish was the answer.

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Unfortunately, I underestimated my wife and her abilities, and after some digging, she discovered the affair. I was not sorry about the affair itself, but I was sorry for hurting my wife.

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The irony is, she has always had me under her thumb. My dilemma at this point is: My wife is not the sort of ex who would remain friends after the break-up — she has stated on many occasions that if we ever broke up, she would move away so that I would not be able to see my children again.

This comment always weighs heavily on my mind whenever I think about leaving. Here are some ground rules to follow in your next relationship fight.

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Rather, it should be given unconditionally. She suggests that you deal with the issue from a loving and genuine place, which is more likely to be heard by your partner.

Name calling and threats are unhealthy and hard to forget. What I really need is more quality time with you during the weeknights so that I feel more connected to you.

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When you carve out time to give me your undivided attention, I feel so loved. My husband and I left our kids with my brother and his wife and had a nice night away in the city. After we fully discussed the kids we were a little stuck for topics after 12 years together. I googled conversation starters and these came up and worked great! Will be using them again. I recall seeing this on your blog back in and thought it didnt apply to me that day.

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Its just for her…. Phil shakes his head. So glad to be where I am today. I think it is also important to have certain rituals in a marriage. Sometime one or the other forgets to take it off at night and we just get the kiss, but we do this every morning before we start our day. Hi Shelia, my husband and I have been married 24 years. He is not a talker so tonight on our anniversary I found your list of questions.

We went through every one of them and I learned so much! We welcome your comments and want this to be a healthy discussion forum!

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