How to Have a Healthy Divorce: A Relate Guide

How to Have a Healthy Divorce: A Relate Guide

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Going through a separation or divorce can be particularly daunting if you're in the dark about what's going to happen. Get as much information about the process as you can, as it will help you to feel more in control of the situation. A good place to start is Gov. We all have people we tend to rely on when life gets tough. These are the people who, no matter what, are always there for us when we need support. If the trauma of recent events has made you feel isolated, try to reconnect with the individuals who make you feel better about yourself — especially friends and family members who have been through a break-up themselves and know what you're going through.

Read more in How to keep in touch with friends. And when you feel the time is right, try getting out and about more and connecting with new people if you're getting older, we have lots of tips in our article Making friends in later life.

Talking about your feelings can help you to cope with what you're going through. But if you prefer to confide in people you don't know, try those who are trained to listen, such as Samaritans , or look for a nearby support group for people in your situation. Take some time to do something that's purely for you, advise Relate experts. Think about what you enjoy such as a long walk, a soak in the bath, spending time on a hobby or other interest, reading a good book or watching your favourite film.

Also try to devote some time to thinking positively about yourself. Relate recommends writing down something nice about yourself before going to bed each night for a week. Then during the following week, write down 1 thing you did well that day.

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Also remember to eat as healthily as possible and get plenty of rest and sleep whenever you can. The saying 'every cloud has a silver lining' may not seem appropriate when you're going through a divorce or separation — indeed, it may even sound offensive. But it really can help to try and find the positives among what may seem like an utterly negative situation. These positives may not be obvious at first — or perhaps all the positives look like they apply to your ex-partner rather than yourself. In her book How to have a Healthy Divorce, Relate counsellor Paula Hall describes an activity to help people manage their fears and worries.

Here's how the activity goes:. Going through a divorce or separation is a grieving process. But sometimes this can lead to divorce depression. It's perfectly normal to feel depressed in such situations — at least for a while. But if you feel constantly low for more than 6 months and you experience other symptoms such as lack of energy, appetite changing, sleeping difficulties, lack of concentration or physical restlessness, it's a good idea to speak to your GP.

If you're facing relationship problems we offer free and confidential emotional support , including counselling and couples counselling. Why not find out how our trained counsellors can help by calling us any day, any time on ? There is a future for us as a family - a good one. It won't happen overnight, but things are under control and we're heading in the right direction. I believe in providing staff with the right support and with CABA's services we're creating an environment where everyone can achieve their best and enjoy their work.

I am now starting to slowly change my behaviour and view. It has been a complicated process but counselling has made me realise that how I feel is important and that other people in my life have problems too and I am not responsible for all of them! Advisors are available 24 hours a day.

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While nobody would ever suggest that going through a break-up could ever be easy, here are some things you could do that may help you while you're dealing with divorce or separation: Seek divorce advice and information Going through a separation or divorce can be particularly daunting if you're in the dark about what's going to happen.

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The process of divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience and, on the practical side, the financial and legal strains can be a major source of stress. But approaching divorce with the right advice and support can help you turn the experience into a chance for personal growth and development, so you can look to the future with a realistic optimism.

How to Have a He The process of divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience and, on the practical side, the financial and legal strains can be a major source of stress. How to Have a Healthy Divorce will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong in your marriage and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved in a break up. In clear and simple steps, this practical guide will show you how to: Paperback , pages.

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