My Messy Room

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Rhyming, easy-to-read text, exuberant illustrations, flash cards for every word in the story, and educational activities. Part of the My First Hello Reader! Paperback , 32 pages. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other readers questions about My Messy Room , please sign up. Lists with This Book. This book is not yet featured on Listopia.

Dec 29, karen rated it it was amazing Shelves: View all 29 comments. Dec 28, Greg rated it liked it Shelves: So I'm trying to clean up my own messy room, and I come across this book. Why do I have this book?

My Messy Room: My First Hello Reader! by Mary Packard

I don't remember ever buying it, actually I'm pretty certain I never bought it. It was published in , making me 19 when it first came out, an age at which I could read, so my parents never bought this for me. I don't know where it came from, but I decided to sit down and read it. I was hoping for inspiration.

Maybe a good message about cleaning my room, making it a better place, o So I'm trying to clean up my own messy room, and I come across this book. Maybe a good message about cleaning my room, making it a better place, or something. The plot of this story is about a troublesome little girl who likes to keep her room a pigsty, not unlike my own. She likes it and does nothing about it, except that it makes her mommy mad, but the story ends there, not with the girl rectifying mommy's anger, but gleefully dancing around her sloppy room.

Oh shit, I just realized I gave away the whole plot of the book. Probably cursing in a review for a book geared towards 4 year olds isn't too good either but fuck it. I feel a little cheated. I feel bewildered where this book came from. I actually wonder where the whole pile of children's books came from that were underneath another pile of books I haven't read yet. I also wonder when I got an ARC of a zombie book coming out in March, and why I have multiple copies of certain books that I don't really ever remember buying one copy of.

So hooray for my own messy room and it's hidden literary surprises and boo to this book which I looked to in my time of need and guidance and instead seems to be telling me to keep my room a wreck, and instead do some rhyming exercises to make myself a better reader, but seriously this book isn't that tough and I already knew all the words so it didn't help me there at all. View all 15 comments. This book is cool. Jul 04, Sara Codair rated it it was amazing. This was the first book I remember reading independently. As a child, I had it memorized, and read it over and over and over again.

And I still like my room messy. Mar 15, Julie rated it liked it Shelves: One of my books when I was a kid. Sep 05, Hannah Edwards rated it really liked it.

my (messy) room, small couch off camera - Picture of Anthony's On The Beach, Cocoa Beach

My Messy Room by Mary Packard is a great book for children just beginning to read. I can always close the door so that I don't have to see it. As a year old girl living with my dad and stepmom, I find this article slightly offensive in that it makes the jump from "messy room" to "secretly drug lord. I'm heavily involved in an FRC robotics team and plan to go to college for engineering and attend medical school.

I've never done drugs, had sex, or done anything illegal barring driving errors when learning. And yet, alarmist articles like this lead my parents to suspect foul play if I leave a shirt on the floor or have a disorganized closet. Articles like this lead my parents to constantly expect that I will rebel or get involved with shady people.

Articles like this are why my parents examine every action I take, from eating a bagel in the morning to cloing my bedroom door to put pajamas on before bed. Articles like this are why My parents can look at a 3. Teenagers happen to be human beings with feelings and motivations OTHER than actively seeking to ruin their future and their relationship with their parents, and it's unreasonable of parents to treat us in any other way.

I fully understand that in a lot of ways I am less experienced than my parents and other people of their age, but that isn't my fault. It's inherent of the fact that they're years older than me. Just treat your kids like they're intelligent beings, expect them to act in a similar way, and in all likeliness they'll turn out fine. If not, too bad; you tried. I was amazed at the scope and depth of people commenting, which I have only scanned in most cases.

I have a son whose room goes from bottom of a trash can dumpster to pretty clear and organized for shortish periods. He struggles with organization, so cleaning spurts can take him days, going on weeks. It seemed to me - after reviewing my original approaches to this matter - that so much investment of mental energy in this one area was counter-productive in a Pareto kind of way. So now I accept that I will have to probably change the carpet and re-paint that room when he moves out in two years. I draw the line and save the "firm stance" for outside the room - dump creep as a possible name - and sometimes talk about my organizational and cleaning techniques when everyone is in a good mood and opportunity arises.

One day I showed him a cleaning kit as in invention I was showing off, and he has gotten and used it several of times. Had I used it as part of an attack, it would have been rejected. In any event, I think viewing this issue as a difficult passage of childhood rather than a struggle has helped me and him. After all, other than the expense of some refurbishing, his stay here is finite, it's not a hugely critical area, he is learning and from the article it appears should learn better skills as he gets his adult brain, and I would prefer to enjoy my time with him as much as possible before he is out of the nest.

There are so many possible causes for their adolescent's messy room: At issue is how cleaned up and orderly the parent would like the space to be.

My Messy Room, Summer Hill

For you, later changing the carpet and repainting the room, and ignoring the mess to avoid unpleasantness, is partly your chosen way to go. Personally, I like your showing him "organizational and cleaning techniques" from time to time. He can log that information in for future reference, if not for present use.

Also the "cleaning kit" idea I think is inventive. A lot of times, bringing order to their room an idea initially rejected turns out to be quite satisfying. The young person has brought a significant aspect of their world under personal control.

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No one approach fits all. Parents vary widely in how they choose to deal or not deal with the adolescent messy room. Probably should have mentioned that for health reasons, anything with food in or on it has to be bagged and taken to the trash in the garage as one of the requirements for allowance that week.

And, anything outside the room gets a mention, then disappears. I'm currently 18 years old and everything that is in this article could've been quoted from my mum. Has it made me respect her authority? Has it encouraged me to tidy up? Has it made me sly? Yes, I no longer tell my mother anything.

A few years ago, me and my mum were frequently arguing about the state of my bedroom, I felt that it was my space so she should leave it alone and it was impeccably clean so that wasn't an issue, there was just a lot of school work lying around. She started 'tidying' my room whenever I went out. I write tidying in inverted commas as she didn't ever really clean, she just looked through my stuff. I'd come home and items that had deliberately been hidden in obscure places as a test had been moved and my laptop was on its sixth incorrect password attempt.

Obviously, I felt that this was a major invasion of my privacy. I wasn't exactly at risk of being in danger and so never for a moment did I think this was some kind of misplaced motherly concern, it was nosy and disrespectful. I've since caught her reading my phone notifications and trying to unlock it. This didn't make me respect my mother as an authority figure, it just made me feel angry and distrustful. I didn't start listening to her, I just started sneaking around a lot more and hiding things a lot better.

My laptop now has a 27 character password and will auto-factory reset after 10 failed attempts. My phone has an 11 character password and will erase in the same way. Anything I want to keep private is stored elsewhere or destroyed. I used to tell my mum almost everything, but now I don't know if she could name 5 of my friends or 3 places I've actually been to within the past month. Her lack of respect for my privacy has completely destroyed what was once a close mother-daughter relationship.

I couldn't even have 50 square feet of space to myself so I've done what I could to just have some things to myself. Your mother was invasive to her cost and you became evasive to your cost. Prying is not a healthy way to parent. Lying is not a healthy way for you to live. She needs to pull back and let go, and you need to be more honest even honestly refusing what you don't want to tell. Your response was extremely well stated.

The messy room is a small problem with big implications.

Pardon me, but, I see no sources cited, no one quoted, no other research done to either support or argue the point you were attempting to make in this article. I'm afraid I also must question your credentials as a psychologist due to the fact that I cannot even find the university you attended which for any author would be readily available information. I understand that this is a commercial site and as such, information found on it is most often questionable at best but, honestly, I'm disappointed in you.

To make mistakes as simple as these. Even the most simple of sleep deprived undergrads can site some sort of source or provide some sort of research. All we have is your opinion.

I hope this has been a learning experience for you Dr. Ed, ; Ph. University of Texas at Austin Counseling Psychology. Licensed psychologist in Texas for over 30 years counseling parents and adolescents. I am surprised that interest and concern are viewed as a lack of respect for the child's privacy. In fact interest and concern for a child's well being is love. If parents don't hold a child accountable and ensure the child is making appropriate choices then I have to say the parent lacks love,and chooses the path of least resistance.

The internet is downright dangerous with pornography predators and snuff images readily available. You are actually endangering your child with too much independence and privacy.

Stop trusting that bill gates and CNN will protect you. Parents need to be vigilant and open their eyes. The young generation is very confused about everything, let's be honest. Cleaning and maintaining an orderly and organized life are habits that are learned.

They are habits that are necessary for success in school, and in the professional world even in communal family living. The home life is where you learn these skills with safety net of your family. Your children need a parent not a best friend that does not question, challenge or insist on a clean room, good grades, kindness towards others.

If a messy room causes stress to the family then it needs to be cleaned up. It's part of communally living, its considerate, its hygienic and helps everyone to get along. Privacy is important but learning to get along, caring for one another is also just as important. Privacy sounds like an excuse to distance yourself from intimacy. This theory that parents should have hands off relationships with their teens is dangerous and speaks of cultural Marxism and undercuts the value of the relationships in a family.

The teenager needs to learn to get along with family, to compromise, to get out of their selfish and solitary mindset. Our cultural Marxist experiment has undermined the family and confused individuals. Its sad , a messy room is a messy room and maybe a symbol of severe depression, poor self esteem, lack of organization skills maybe add, social anxiety. Yes it might be common but it is not acceptable, it's not a positive life skill, and if your desk is messy at work you might get fired.

If your child is exhibiting signs of a disorder and the parent does not seek treatment than it is negligent. Maybe a messy room is a a sign of a child crying for hep and attention. Maybe it's a sign of inattentive and disinterested parents? To simply shut a door says a lot about the kind of parents raising these kids. I wonder if these kids are taking a backseat to their parents texting and facebooking? To me a messy room is a red flag. Of a family in trouble, it could be as simple as a lack of time management skills or as serious as depression or drug use. By the way thank you for posting this article.

It was very informative.

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It really made me think about how I want my family to grow, and as a family we are going to get closer, less social media less internet more face to face and I am also going to get more involved in monitoring, or as some here would call it spying. Sorry for the rant! Yes, a large part of thankless parenting an adolescent is checking and supervising when the young person wants the freedom to be left alone. Your comment is well said.

One responder commented that you need to pick your battles with your teen and that she never requires her teens to clean their rooms. That is what doors are for! If you don't want to see the kids' rooms, close their doors and don't look. If they like the mess, leave them alone about it and let them have the mess. I have 3 daughters 14, 12, and 9. All have their own rooms and all are unbelievable messes! They will either choose to clean their rooms or they won't. That is up to them. Up to this time, all 3 have chosen NOT to clean their rooms. They don't have to if they don't want to.

When parents tell their adolescent to just shut the door so they don't have to see the disarray, they are allowing the teenage mess to shut them out from knowing what may be illicitly kept and may be dangerously going on behind a permanently closed door. Not a good idea. How personal decisions can be empowering and instructive. The conflicted state of ambivalence has much to teach a growing adolescent. Imitating adolescent mistreatment to show what not to do is a gamble. Back Find a Therapist. What Causes Stress Eating? Parenting Adolescents and the Choice-Consequence Connection.

Has Gender Always Been Binary? Carl E Pickhardt Ph. Symbol of the Adolescent Age, The messy room is a small problem with big implications. Submitted by Elle on March 28, - 5: Submitted by Carl E Pickhardt Ph. Im calling bullshit on this argument.

None of you grown asses is a teen. Messy room v no messy roo. Submitted by Phil Parr on May 7, - Submitted by Laura on March 31, - 7: Wrong and offensive Submitted by SS on December 7, - 4: This Is a very complicated Submitted by caringguy11 on June 19, - This seems to be far too much Submitted by Anonymous on July 3, - 4: Privacy Submitted by Anon Imus on June 25, - 7: Submitted by Anonymous on October 14, - Baloney Submitted by Anonymous on August 19, - 7: My son 9 has always been the funny one, full of life and happy.

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