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Are you naturally patient, or is it an act of the will? Judah writes, "Be strong and independent, and simultaneously sensitive and sacrificial. Judah, director of the Columbus OH Marriage Coalition, notes that most people receive more driver's training than marriage training, recommends marriage mentoring and education to improve communication.
Learn to give your spouse five compliments for every complaint. He asks couples, "If a miracle happened and you could create the future you desire, what would it look like? If a divorce is agreed upon, hire mediators, not lawyers, to work it out, always with the hope of reconciliation. Land of a Thousand Hills Coffee.
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Base your long-term decisions on your values instead of your feelings. Ask God to use this crisis to help you become the best person you can be. List your most positive character traits. Then list your most negative ones, and commit yourself to turning the negative traits into positive ones. Encourage each other as much as you can while you grow.
Engage in healing rituals. Consider participating in rituals that will help you and your spouse strengthen your bond, such as: Increase the frequency of positive experiences you share with your spouse.
Engage in activities that you both enjoy. Ask God to help you relate to your spouse out of strength and independence rather than neediness and dependence. Remember the qualities that first attracted you to your spouse, and seek to notice new qualities that also draw you to him or her. Dream new dreams together.
Think and pray about how you can work with your spouse to pursue significance through fulfilling relationships, developing your talents and skills, contributing to the world to make it a better place, and making peace with God. Develop specific goals as individuals and as a couple that address personal, spousal, parental, familial, communal, financial, and professional achievements you hope to make, as God leads you. But be sure to wait about a year after the crisis began to make any life-altering decisions. Give yourself plenty of time for professional counseling to support you both through the healing process.
Novice climbers approach the mountain unaware of what awaits them. In my one experience climbing, I remember watching a couple of my team members have uncontrollable emotional reactions as they acclimatized to the altitude. Similarly, nothing can truly prepare a person for all that marriage entails. Couples should avail themselves of every opportunity possible to prepare and train, just as a climber should! Preventative measures are practiced by the wise of heart.
Even so, you still have to climb i. Likewise, a marriage cannot linger long in an affair. He also compares the active affair to the peak of a mountain ascent because an affair does not simply all of a sudden happen. A couple climbs into it. Judah describes the progressive ascent into brokenness as the accumulation of brokenness from sin, brokenness from the family of origin, brokenness from our peer group, brokenness from dating relationships, romantic love, civil war, the evolution of affair conditions, and finally the peak—the active affair.
We enter marriage with imbedded flaws that remain hidden until a crisis exposes them. It happened 73 seconds into its flight. All crew members were lost.
House Committee on Science and Technology concluded its hearings with a statement: Years of poor decisions by experts who failed to act decisively created a death zone that exposed everything. The warring pair tend to primarily see the bad in the other. The good is denied or remains carefully ignored. Each becomes at risk to fall into a pattern of being at their worst. How did I ever get here? The reality is that both spouses have both brokenness and wholeness within them. Judah describes the primary factors at play as 1 communication issues, 2 character or developmental issues e.
Work relationships where men and women are working in close proximity and where conversation moves from work-related into more personal feelings, desires, dreams, etc. Unintentionally, boundaries are crossed. From proximity, similarities may begin to surface and create a dangerous intimacy. Eventually, it is possible for the offending spouse to perceive rewards associated in an affair with the third party person.