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Make a list of benefits Make a list of why you want your life to go in this direction. What is distracting you from accomplishing your path?
Easy to say, not so easy to do. If I decide I want to eat better I am distracted from my goal by comfort food. Yes, the thought of eating better means I have to give up comfort food. Hard to do in the cold of winter. But, again following his ideas, I had to think more about why I want to eat better. Look better, have more energy, just feel better, be able to get out and enjoy things like mountain biking, fit my clothes better etc. You start giving yourself more reasons to want to change your life than to want the negative attraction.
It makes it far easier to not give in to temptations when you keep reminding yourself of what you're going to gain in the long run by continuing to move forwards with your life direction. Break it down into steps and make sure you start with something simple.
Keep yourself moving in the direction you want to go. Small steps on the way to change your life will soon lead to your ultimate goal.
Just be careful of saying that too many times. In order to change your life you need to keep going on the right path. A few slips back to your old habits is fine as long as you keep your motivation strong as to where you eventually want to end up. You now have a direction of where you want to go. Making a Life Direction is a way to really change your life for the better. You can do it. You can change your life. It's as simple as making a Life Direction.
You want to make the right choices for your future but you're worried about wasting it. What type of life or career path do you definitely not want go down? You'd think people would consider this before choosing a career but. By taking small steps, putting aside over-thinking, and realizing that you have anxiety about the future stems from all the analysis and thinking we do as adults.
How To Deal With Frustration. How to Deal With Blamers. If you're worried about wasting too much time you can break it down even further and use 90 day sprints for goal setting. This time frame gives you enough room to explore without wasting too much time. To see what it's really like. Sometimes what you imagine and what's real are completely different. You may have a conversation with one of these people and realize you actually don't want to pursue that path. Ask them the right questions. Ask them about the struggles associated with following that path.
Ask them how they knew this path was right for them. Ask them what they would do if they were you. I learned this exercise from successful writer Jeff Goins. A worldview statement helps you shape your perception on the world and can provide guidance on the direction you should head towards.
My world view statement is "All people should build a life around their natural talents and strengths. You think all of the time, but it's distracted, unfocused thinking. Blocking out time to do nothing else but think can lead to some serious discoveries. Bill Gates goes on a two week retreat every year just to think.
Maybe you can start with 30 minutes -- to be alone with your thoughts and work through the choices you want to make for your future. You can use regret to determine if you should heard in a certain direction.
Look to the end of your life. If you don't pursue what you're thinking about, will you ultimately regret it when it's all said and done? There's a second part to this test. Again, look to the end of your life.
If you tried and things didn't work out, would you feel at peace knowing you gave it a shot? If you can answer yes both questions, you're probably on the right track.
I learned about this technique while listening to a podcast interview with Pat Flynn. Here's how the airport test works. Imagine it's five years from now and you run into an old friend. Your friend asks you how you're doing and what you've been up to. Given that you've spent the past 5 years building your dream life, what would your response be? The airport test takes the boring "5 year plan" and makes it sexier. Fear and self-doubt get a bad rap.
Try out the dream life activity and then come back here to let me know how you feel! I let go of all evidence and started following my gut. Robert Petrie on May 13, at 5: Living life on my own terms. And in that positive lens, I found the light inside of me to bring forward the resiliency that until then had lain dormant. July 6, at 2: It is a good start to find the right direction for ones life.
If you're pursuing something that doesn't scare you it's not worth your time. With every obstacle that comes up, ask yourself: You have permission to change your mind. At least now you know that you need to go back and try something else. Taking action, living through the disaster scenarios, and coming out the other end with more know-how and wisdom is far better than not taking action at all. Whether or not we should trust our instincts is a perennial debate, but at some point we do need to learn to trust our guts.
Yes, at times your gut instinct will lead you astray.
Rather than viewing this as a justification for returning to over-thinking, however, use it as a learning experience that will better attune your gut instinct next time. Once you have that list, make a note of the common elements between those activities. Taking a strengths test such as the VIA Strengths Test will give you more awareness of where your strengths lie, and perhaps a few more ideas of how you can use them to add value to the world.
Just as we all have individual strengths, we also have a set of core values that are deeply important to how we live our lives. To identify which values are must-haves in your life, find a list of values such as this one and narrow down the top 10 and top three that resonate with you.
Finding the right direction in life is a rewarding challenge that can involve a lot of trial and error.
To give yourself the best chance of finding your right direction, you need to surround yourself with supportive people.