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I didn't answer when they called. I went into my closet, closed the door, turned off the lights, and cried until I passed out from a migraine.
This happened every single day for eight months. One day, my good friend Sherri sent me a text message right in the middle of my fit. I responded back to her for the first time in weeks and aired out everything I had felt at the exact moment. It was the first time I had allowed my friend to be there for me, even if it were only sending text messages back and forth.
Since then, I've slowly reconnected with my friends, and whenever I'm having an issue I allow my friends to be there for me by opening up to them. It's a wonderful feeling to know that you've got people in your life that will have your back -- no matter what it is that you're going through, but you'll never know that unless you let them in.
When my father passed and my family struggled, I was more lost than I had ever been in my entire life. No one could answer my questions, I thought I would never get closure, and I lost all hope in my future. A year and a half later, I was still asking myself the same questions over and over again: Why did I still feel so much pain? When am I going to get over this? Why can't I just get back to "normal? It wasn't until I realized that I was never supposed to go back to normal that I took back control of my life. You're allowed to be completely f-cked up. This is not only the hardest thing that you've ever been through, it is also the hardest thing that you will ever go through.
And that should bring you some form of peace, knowing that anything else that's thrown your way will be nothing compared to what you went through with the loss of your loved one. Dealing with the death of my father changed me forever, and the second I accepted that was the second I found the strength to live the life I had always dreamed of. Don't ever be ashamed of your past, don't ever forget that it's what makes you beautiful, and don't ever give up.
A year ago I was in my bed at 2 o'clock on an afternoon weekday staring at the ceiling for hours with a half-finished bottle of vodka in my right hand. All I could do was cry, and all I wanted was a drink to mask the pain. Alcohol or drugs -- they make you temporarily numb to the pain you're feeling, but spending your time masking the pain is only pushing back the healing process. When you're grieving, it feels like nothing else is happening in the world, and all you seem to do is focus on the negativity that's happening around you.
You forget that the world is filled with beautiful, positive, inspiring things because you're in your own immediate environment, which at the moment kinda sucks. Traveling helped heal me -- actually, it saved my life. It opened up my eyes, expanded my perspective and inspired me to continue to fight to find happiness Read: Getting out of your immediate environment to experience a new place reminds you that life is worth living -- that the world is worth exploring.
Losing a loved one is a painful reminder that life is way. And that loved one would want nothing more than for you to be happy -- not the watered-down, half smile, day-to-day getting by content happy, but truly happy.
People used to tell me, "Keep yourself busy. I went to a job every single day to keep myself busy, but it only made me more miserable. It didn't make the time go by faster -- it made each day seem more and more meaningless. Keep yourself busy by taking the time to figure out what it is that you love. Set goals and build a plan to make your dreams become a reality. Is this not the perfect time for you to live with purpose? To motivate yourself, embrace your newfound strength and take a chance to wake up every morning grateful? What makes you happy?
Focusing your energy to go after a dream is a positive way to give back to yourself, for yourself.
There was a time when I couldn't focus on anything other than the sight of my father in the hospital bed. I closed my eyes at night and I didn't see his smiling, loving demeanor, or hear him laughing at his mostly corny jokes - all I saw was him in the hospital bed right before his last moments. It broke my heart every single day, so I tried to forget. Get fast, free shipping with Amazon Prime.
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