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Successful people choose education over entertainment. The purpose is to find something you love that also adds value to the world. If you want to find that purpose, and actually start creating and doing work that impacts the loves of thousands…. If you want to be extraordinary and successful, choose education and learning over entertainment. I have a friend who is writing a novel. His second and third books will probably be better. The first one sold exactly zero copies.

The second one sold about 20 copies. I imagine my next one will sell a little more. Same goes for the one after that. Most people want to be wildly successful on the first try. But this almost never happens. We are not able to produce great work without first producing a lot of crap. In the words of renowned radio host Ira Glass:. It will probably do better than his first book did. Same goes for his 3rd and 4th books. These individuals became great alone, in practice, every day, for years. Over, and over, and over. Get over it, publish it, and try again. Your second draft will be better.

I used to juggle being an entrepreneur on the side while working full-time. How you do one thing is how you do everything. When one area of your life is suffering, all the other parts suffer. Conversely, when you develop one part of your life, all the other parts benefit too. Are laziness, irresponsibility, and avoidance normal parts of your day? If they are, they need to be changed.

The whole cannot become healthy if there are still toxic areas that remain unaddressed. Like a broken ankle or a dislocated shoulder, the entire body will suffer if even one part remains broken. The price for being extraordinary is a high one. It means severing ties with toxic individuals. Paying the price of success means changing these behaviors. The choice to become extraordinary is not unlike the addict who knows he has to quit to survive; do you keep doing the same things, or are you willing to change everything to transform?

For many people, the answer is no. Then you need to start paying the price. When you have a choice between the easy and comfortable path or the difficult and challenging path, do you pay the price? You can have anything you want. But this success requires a heavy price. The thing about becoming truly successful is that most people never do it.

They may try, or claim they want to, but in reality, it never happens. This reality becomes all the more keen for the few individuals who actually choose to become truly successful and extraordinary. Only those who have reached the top of the mountain know how few tracks are up there. If you want to be truly successful, you need to understand this road will probably be very lonely, for a time.

Even the most well-intentioned people around you may begin to disparage and discourage you from leaving the safety of the herd. Family, friends, and loved ones all may not understand your choice to go on a new path. In some cases, they may even become resentful and hurtful. In order to prevent the reality that you achieved your goals while they did not, they strive to keep you in the herd, or ostracize you when you leave. When my wife and I were still living in San Diego, I was extremely busy. I had written an eBook, started a podcast, gotten a craft beer certification, and read 30 books, all while in full-time grad school and full-time work.

When we moved to South Korea, our lives became extremely simple. One of the most important factors about becoming successful is self-belief. In other words, your level of how successful you will be is generally accurate. This sentiment has been echoed throughout history.

Do you believe you can win? Can you envision yourself with your goals completed? What you focus on, expands. This is why most critical, judgmental, and negative people invariably have negative, toxic lives. Winners become winners by acting like one. The perfect client, perfect opportunity, and perfect circumstances will almost never happen. Instead of wishing things were different, why not cultivate what's right in front of you? Rather than waiting for the next opportunity, recognize that the one in your hands is the opportunity. Said another way, the grass is greener where you water it.

I see so many people leave marriages because they believe better relationships are "out" there. In most cases, these people start new relationships and end them the same way the previous relationship ended. The problem isn't your circumstances. The problem is you. We don't find our soulmates; we create our soulmates through hard work. As Jim Rohn said, "Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom. I waited a few years too long to actively start writing.

I was waiting for the right moment, when I'd have enough time, money, and whatever else I thought I needed. I was waiting until I was somehow qualified or had permission to do what I wanted to do. But you are never prequalified. There is no degree for "live your dreams. You get permission by deciding. Don't wait for tomorrow for something you could do today.

Your future self will either thank you or shamefully defend you. After much thought and discussion with his partner, he rejected the offer, believing he could continue to build Linkexchange into something bigger. His true love is in building and creating. A true pro gets paid, but doesn't work for money. A true pro works for love. This blew Tony away. His first thought was, "I'm glad I didn't sell five months ago!

He would make this decisions on his terms. He thought about all the things he would do if he had all that money, knowing he would never have to work another day in his life. After reflecting, he could only devise a small list of things he wanted:. His passion and motivation wasn't in having stuff. He concluded that he could already afford a TV and a new computer, and could already go on weekend mini-vacations whenever he wanted. He was only 23 years old, so he determined a condo could wait.

Why would he sell Linkexchange just to build and grow another company? There were more than employees. Yet Hsieh no longer enjoyed being there. The culture and politics had subtly changed in the process of rapid growth. Linkexchange was no longer Hsieh and a group of close friends building something they loved. They had hired a bunch of people in a hurry who didn't have the same vision and motivations they had. Many of the new employees didn't care about Linkexchange, or about building something they loved. So he decided to sell the company on his terms. A similar concept emerged in a conversation I had about one year ago with Jeff Goins , bestselling author of The Art of Work.

I asked his advice about publishing a book I want to write and he said, "Wait. Don't jump the gun on this. I made that mistake myself. If you wait a year or two, you'll get a 10x bigger advance, which will change the trajectory of your whole career. Here's how it works. Wait a year or two and change the trajectory of your career and life. This isn't about procrastination.

There is nothing that is a more certain sign of insanity than to do the same thing over and over and expect the results to be different. Convention is where we are. Breaking convention is how we'll evolve, which requires a gargantuan quantity of failure. If you don't have the grit to fail 10, times, you'll never invent your light bulb. Failure is something to be prized and praised. Failure is moving forward.

It's conscious and exerted effort toward something you've never done before. The person who doesn't make mistakes is unlikely to make anything. People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find, once they reach the top, that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall.

It's how you ruin your life without even knowing it. More important than playing "the game" is how the game is set up. How you set up the game determines how you play. And it's better to win first, and then play. Start from the end and work backward. Or as Covey put it in 7 Habits , once that's nailed down, then dictate the daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly behaviors that will facilitate that.

Then he set out to earn it. He won the game first, then played. Sadly, most people can't stop looking at the other side of the fence. They fail to realize the brilliant possibilities currently available to them. This is bad stewardship. There are people you already know who can connect you with people you should know. Instead of wanting more, how about you utilize what you already have?

Until you do, more won't help you. Actually, it will only continue hurting you until you learn to earn something for yourself. It's easy to want other people to do it for you. But real success comes when you take ownership of your life. No one else cares more about your success or health, or relationships, or time than you do. Your current position is ripe with abundant opportunity.

Once you gain another inch of position, leverage it for all it's worth. Don't wish for more. Wish you were better. And soon enough, you'll find yourself in incredible positions and collaborating with your heroes.

2. Not valuing one dollar.

Success is based on having and maintaining a motivation worth fighting for. It's based on believing what others might call a fantasy. It's based on leveraging your position and maintaining the momentum of every step you take. In a similar way, when you go to an event or to hear a speech, you're usually going to see the speaker, not to hear what they have to say. You already know what they have to say.

No matter what type of work you are in, it will be better received if you see it as an art form. You are performing for an audience. Ryan Holiday, author of The Obstacle is the Way , explains what he calls "the moment," which every skilled creative has experienced. Until you have this moment, it all seems like magic to you.

You have no idea how people create what they create. After you have this moment, you realize that everything is done by a person intentionally creating a particular experience. I was recently watching Lord of the Rings and it dawned on me that those movies would be completely different if they hadn't been directed by Peter Jackson.

Every shot, every set, the lighting, the costumes, how the characters and landscapes look, and how the whole film feels and is portrayed. It all would have looked and felt completely different based on the experience a different director was trying to create. Thus, there is no right or wrong way. Rather, it's about doing things your way.

1. Wasting five minutes.

Until you experience this "moment," you'll continue attempting the correct or best way to do things. You'll continue copying other people's work. But if you persist, you'll become disillusioned by those who were once your idols. They are people just like you and me. They've just made a decision to create in their own way. The idea of imitation will become abhorrent, freeing you to create as you see fit. You'll emerge with your own voice and original work. You'll be less troubled about how your work is received and more focused on creating something you believe in. The most powerful way to punch someone in the face is to aim your fist 12 inches beyond his face.

That way, you have full momentum and power when you make contact. If you aim for the face itself, by the time you reach it you'll have already begun slowing down. Thus, your punch will not be as powerful as you intended it to be. Most people planning for retirement begin slowing down in their 40s and 50s.

Time-wasting

The sad part is, as momentum-based beings, when you begin to slow down, you start a hard-to-reverse decaying process. Research has found that retirement often:. But retirement is a 20th-century phenomena, and the foundations undergirding this outdated notion make little sense in modern and future society.

For instance, due to advances in health care, 65 is not considered old age anymore. When the Social Security system was designed, the planners chose age 65 because the average lifespan was age 63 at the time. Thus, the system was designed only for those who were really in need, not to create a culture of people being supported by others' labor. Furthermore, the perception that people over 65 can't provide meaningful work no longer makes sense either.

And if there's anything lacking in today's society, its wisdom, which people in their later years have spent a lifetime refining. In the past five years, he's written three books. He goes to bed every night at 8 and wakes up every morning at 4: He spends the first two and a half hours of his day watching inspirational and instructional content on television.

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He then eats breakfast at 7 and spends his day reading, writing, connecting and serving people, and even doing physical labor around his son's my dad's house. He even walks around his neighborhood proselyting his faith and asking random strangers how he can help them. I have no intention of stopping or slowing down. Contrary to popular belief, humans are like wine and get better with age.

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Our present circumstances are a reflection of our past decisions. Although we have enormous power to change the trajectory of our lives here and now, we are where we are because of our past. While it's popular to say the past doesn't matter, that simply is not true. Today is tomorrow's yesterday. What we do today will either enhance or diminish our future-present moments.

But most people put things off until tomorrow. We thoughtlessly go into debt, forego exercise and education, and justify negative relationships. But at some point, it all catches up. Like an airplane off-course, the longer we wait to correct, the longer and harder it is to get back on course. Time is absolutely marvelous. We get to have the experiences we long for. And then we get to remember and carry those experiences with us forever. The past, present, and future are uniquely important and enjoyable. In sports and all other forms of competition, people perform best when the game is close, which is why big magic happens at the end of games, like on-sides kicks retrieved followed by second touchdown drives.

But when the contest is decidedly in one opponent's favor, neither side acts with the same effort. When you're winning big, it's easy to get lax and overconfident. When you're losing big, it's easy to give up. Sadly, you probably perceive those at the top of your field as "in a different league" altogether.

But when you do this, you perform with less intensity than you would if you perceived the "game" to be closer. So I went clean. I took them all off my phone. All of a sudden I had to deal with tricky emotions. I would lie on the bed in the evenings with racing thoughts, making worry lists to try and slow down the anxiety.

You are more than your productivity. Slow the fuck down.

It affected my relationship: I would offload on to my boyfriend, and ask for more reassurance about niggling thoughts. It would be a neat narrative if I could say that after initially struggling with stepping away from digital frivolity, the clouds quickly cleared and it made me more functional.

Being more proactive gave me a greater sense of control and confidence in my ability to overcome small obstacles. But I also missed the control the apps gave me over my mood. Some research has indicated that some of the success of social networking sites is down to how they make you feel. An academic paper by Mauri et al showed in that the experience of Facebook was different to a state of either stress or relaxation, but that it had its own unique core flow state.

One way heavy social app use unambiguously crapped all over my feelings, however, was with the guilt that came with the time-wasting. In my case this was painfully true. After I deleted Facebook, Twitter and Instagram from my phone, I was alarmed at the amount of free time that suddenly emerged. I used to think I was way too busy to read these days.

In the moments before bed, while waiting for my boyfriend to finish brushing his teeth, rather than checking Instagram, I put a drawing pad and pencil on my bedside table to sketch out photo ideas.

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